Moharash said that the world needs the greatest patience in this, because it is the nature of children who annoy and harass their parents, and want to try their nerves, and usually the parents go through so much trouble – both from livelihood and from health and various worries and annoyances, and their nerves literally explode and unload everything on their children, and so God forbid, the children annoy the parents, and the parents annoy The children, until the house turned into hell. This requires very, very much patience for the children, and not to break from them under any circumstances, and by doing so they will succeed. (Ameri-Moharash, Part II, Mark Termez)
My dear sons and daughters! If you want to have successful children in body and soul, you must be patient, because under no circumstances can you raise children, except when you buy the measure of patience, because the healthy nature of children is that they jump and rejoice and shout and fall apart, and this is their healthy nature, but the parents because they are older, and they have all kinds of physical and spiritual problems, financial problems Problems of their own, so they have no patience for the children, and then they start shouting and shouting at them, and what is more, when they start hitting and beating them, and by this it is not enough that they do not act to quiet them, but the children become more wild, and jump and rejoice more and more, and if they are instilled in terror and fear by shouting and beating, by this they gather within themselves, and are completely destroyed physically and intellectual; Because the healthy nature of children, who have to fall apart and expend their energy, shout and rage, and how can they be caught? Only by lowering themselves to them, and dressing in garb after garment, until they reach their intellect and understanding, and their small degree, and speak to them in their own language, that then they understand and can get close to their hearts, and only in this way succeed with them, when they can get down to them, especially when there is patience with them, then the children will be very, very successful in their lives, not so if they fall and get into their nerves and start beating them And to shout at them, by doing so they are completely destroyed, and it is not enough that nothing will be done to them, but the situation will be much worse; And so see, my dear sons and daughters, what is before you, your children are diamonds, and only need to be marked, which can only be done by great patience, and lower yourselves to their minds and minds, and speak to them as they examine and according to their opinion and understanding, and by this you will see completely different children; Because as soon as you speak their language, and you have the patience to hear them, then you captivate the little ones, and you can process with them and act with them as you wish, because the children do not understand another language, only when you get down to their language. And of course this is difficult, because parents suffer all kinds of troubles and sufferings – both from livelihood and from humiliations at work and in society, yet you must know that your children are not to blame for this, and you must not take out your anger and murder on them, I will urge the children You must strengthen and encourage and adopt, and play with them according to their mind and little mind, and you need great patience with them, and lower yourself to their hearts And their mind, and play their games with them, and by that you will see what diamonds you have. And if you take this rule then you will see completely different children and what you did not act by shouting and beating, you will act frequently and immediately by bees and explanations that you will explain to them according to their opinion and little wisdom and then you will give them great satisfaction.
My dear sons and daughters! You should know that children are very successful if their parents devote themselves to them, and lower themselves as they understand, and talk to them according to their level and examination, and this increases and raises their minds and minds, and finally grows very successful, and although I know that it is very difficult for you because of the many troubles and sufferings and bitterness and confusions that you go through in your life, both the hassles of making a living and other troubles and pains, with All this you must pay attention to, because the children are your asset, and you certainly want to see great satisfaction from them, and in privacy when they grow up, this is what they saw to invest in them now, because it is a successful investment, a worthwhile investment, an eternal investment, and is not going to be lost; Because finally, reality proves, when you invest materially in some business, then you put all your energy into it, and it is doubtful whether you will succeed or lose everything, yet you do not ask anything, but put all your energy and strength and talent lest maybe the business succeeds, and you do not think times, that there can be a great failure in the whole business, not so when it comes Educate your children, so you get mad and lash out at them, and for every little thing they do, you build a big building, and make a business out of it, and take your nerves out on them, shouting, lashing out and getting angry, and beating them; That really the children are not to blame for this, because it is the healthy nature of the children, that they will scream and fall apart and go wild, and yet for every business in the world you have patience, and fall into the folly of people who come to chattering you with nonsense chatter and idle things in idle matters, and although you are busy with some business, give them the utmost attention and patience, and those when your children come And they ask you for something, whether it is necessary or nonsensical, then you will often and immediately get on your nerves and lash out at them and beat them, and you have no patience for them. And that which causes them to be problematic, and to shut themselves in; Because as much as your anger is in your outbursts and the blows you strike them, fear and terror enters them, until they become pants and framers within themselves, and this is what causes them to fail in their lives, and when they grow up, you break your head and ask: Why didn’t our children succeed in their lives?! Why did they fail?! But you don’t realize that all of this came because you didn’t have patience for them. Why don’t you notice that your children are your asset, and they should be given all the patience in the world? And although I know that this is very difficult for you, because you go through troubles and sufferings and bitterness and debts and adventures, nevertheless I see that when some big or small business comes, you have patience for it, and if neighbors and friends and friends come, even at inconvenient hours, and confuse you, you have patience for them, and only with your children, when confused by wisdom, etc., where your patience wears off. Then I will ask you, is it any wonder that your children do not grow up successful, where is the investment you needed to invest in them?! Where is the patience and attention you should have given them?! Therefore, why should you repent now that they are older, for not succeeding, you are guilty of anything.To this, my dear sons and daughters, if you want to succeed with your children, you must make all kinds of efforts in the world, acquire this precious measure of patience, tolerate the children as they are, and lower yourselves to them according to their level, and speak to them in their own language, and answer all their questions, Although it seems nonsensical, nevertheless you should know that what yours seems petty, in children it is a very big thing, and if you do not answer them, then they will converge within themselves, and grow up problems. And the late Rabbeinu has already said (Sefer HaMedot, Oot Banim, Mark Kaz): The sons are fools when their father is angry; And all this came to them, because they asked their father questions and he did not have enough patience to answer them, but beat them and expelled them, and even more so when threats are threatened against them, they will certainly not enjoy approaching him, and will not dare to confuse him, and then when the son grows up will not succeed, the parents ask: Where did such a thing come from?! You do not notice that all this is due to you and your fault, because you did not have patience for your children.So see, my dear sons and daughters, to be wise, when the children are still of young age, and buy yourself the measure of patience, for there is nothing more so necessary to educate children as the measure of patience. And you need nerves of iron for them, and even though I know it’s so hard for you, it’s not easy at all, and especially when there are other problems at home, such as: livelihood problems, health problems, etc. All kinds of troubles and sufferings that people go through, yet you must remember, because the patience and attention you give to children is the best and safest investment, and a guarantee for the children Very successful in the future. Therefore, consider acquiring for yourselves this precious measure of patience, and by doing so you will succeed with them.
My dear sons and daughters! You should know that it is the nature of small children, who seek attention, and want to be lowered to them, and from this comes they are always nagging, and getting on their nerves, crying, screaming, raging and falling apart. And they really don’t mean evil, but they ask and beg: “Give me attention,” that’s their tool of expression. And because the parents do not know this, they think that the children nag in order to harass them, and therefore they beat them cruelly, or burst out at them shouting: “Get out of here, leave me, I have no power for you”… You don’t know that by doing so you are completely destroying your children. On the one hand, they see that they have defeated you, by succeeding in taking you out of your vessel, and bringing you to anger and nerves, and they enjoy it, and then you lash out even more and yell at them, and they nag more and get on your nerves more and more, and take advantage of the weak point that they have discovered in you. On the other hand, they see and feel that you do not give them enough attention, and you do not pay attention to them and answer their questions, then a feeling of inferiority enters, and they feel themselves humiliated, inferior and distant, and thereby lose faith in themselves, and this causes them to grow up with the feeling that they are worth nothing, and that they are prone to failure in life, and then become troubled in school And in the Talmud Torah, and fail in their studies and grades, and even the teachers, teachers go out of their way and take out their nerves, punish them and shout and lash out at them, and the result is that the children gather more bitterly within themselves and rebel, until they truly grow. And all this you caused yourselves, my dear sons and daughters, because you did not have the slightest patience for your children, and did not want to lower yourselves to them and listen to their words, and answer all their questions, requests and matters, and when they grew up, they grew up already having problems, they shut themselves in, and are depressed and sad, and do not want to leave their room for society or become violent towards others, God forbid, the property of others is stolen and damaged, until there are children who have been so humiliated by their parents, who have not given them the proper treatment and patience, and grow up with problems in an extraordinary way, and so when they have grown up with all kinds of mental problems, then you start running to all kinds of doctors and psychiatrists, and eat yourself: Why did this happen to you?! And why do you have children who won’t make it?! And you ask ‘why’ ‘why’ on every detail, and you don’t notice that the collar hangs around your neck, and you are guilty of it; Because when the children were small, you didn’t bring yourselves down to them, and you didn’t have the patience for their pettiness, you humiliated them, shouted at them, and even more so if you beat them decisively… So what you asked ‘why’ ‘why’, here is the answer before you. To this, my dear sons and daughters, be wise now while your children are small, lower yourself to the level of their minds, and answer them with all their pettiness, and even though you explode with nerves, nevertheless you should know that this is the most worthwhile investment, and instead of chatting with neighbors and friends, friends and relatives, or talking on the phone with this or that about this and that all kinds of nonsense, In this you think a great thing you are doing, at the same time that you murder your children with your hands; For with all those whom you speak and pay attention to, eventually they will leave you, and become you great haters, as is the way of the world, that those who invest in him and talk and talk to him, and try to help and help him out of his problems, and tolerate him with iron patience, in the end he becomes ungrateful, and not only that, but still hates you with the purpose of hatred, and runs away from you, and talks about you All evil things, not so your children who are blood of your blood, flesh of your flesh, bone of yourself, why don’t you forget now about the whole world, and put yourself only in this investment, to suffer your children, to play with them, to explain to them everything that their soul desires, and all that they want to know, and tell them stories as they all have and their examination and their small degree, and by this will enter them self-confidence, And they will feel that they have strong backing behind them, and so their personality will be built, and all their senses will develop, and they will succeed both in their practices and in their learnings, and you will gain great satisfaction from them; For there is no greater satisfaction than this, when one sees that the children mix among people, and talk to all of them, and have a settled mind, and are liked by all, and succeed in their studies, and excel in their grades, that this discount is worth all the fortunes of Dalma, and there is no more money in the world to pay for this discount; And so see, my dear sons and daughters, what lies ahead, is it not worthwhile to invest in your children, that you will acquire the measure of patience and suffer them?! And even though it is very difficult for you, but you will take out the cows, the horn and the wind later, and it will remain for you for the rest of your life.
My dear sons and daughters! I ask you very much to think now and sit in a real settlement of knowledge, while your children are small, start looking at their future, how they will grow up and how they will succeed, and do not say that they are still small – “I have time to educate them, when they reach adulthood then I will invest in them and then explain to them.” Do not say this, because then it will be late and after a time, now is the time to invest in children, when they are still very young, because then every small investment that seems to a toddler, know that this is a very, very large investment, even though it is not visible to the eyes, not so if you slack off in their smallness, everything will be lost later, and when the children get older they can no longer change the coin and repair the damage caused to them mental and intellectual; For if you lowered yourselves to your children when they were still little, and gave them due attention, and did not answer all their questions and naggings, but burst out and shouted at them, and expelled them from you, and beat them cruelly, you caused a deep scar within their souls, and destroyed their future completely. To this, my dear sons and daughters, do not take these words lightly, but instill well in your hearts whatever I ask of you. Put down all the business in the world, and do all kinds of activities to buy yourself from the religion of patience for your children, and answer all their questions, and give them the greatest attention, and cast them and take them out, and explain to them anything that is only asked of you, and never lash out at them, but talk to them in their language and level, and then when they grow up they will be healthy in mind and mind and wise In their minds, and give them great satisfaction, and they will be pleasing to all who see them, and this will be your greatest satisfaction, and then you will reap the fruits that you have sown with toil and trouble, sweat and sorrow and wandering for a year that you have excluded from your eyes when they are great, and then you will prove that all the toil and trouble, sorrow and tears, sweat and weary have paid off; Blessed are the parents who insert these bees into their hearts, and raise them whole, so that they will then succeed with their children very, very much.
My dear sons and daughters! See strengthen yourselves together in the measure of patience, of which there is no other virtue as precious, and in particular be patient with the children; For the futile purpose and obligation to bear sons is for His glory to be blessed, so that the existence of the world may exist, that His sons may remain after him from generation to generation, to reveal His glory will be blessed in the world, for which everything was created; For the barrenness of the revelation of His glory shall be blessed by men, and therefore the Holy One, blessed be He, is commanded to marry and bear sons, and to instill in them the holy faith, and to pass it down from generation to generation from father to son, in order to continue His glory and be blessed in the world, which was the purpose of creation. Therefore, the whole intention of having children must be for one purpose only—in order to continue its light, the world will be blessed with this by the children. And that is why our holy sages warned us so much about the matzot of Enoch – to educate the children to follow the ways of the Torah and the holy faith.But for this we need very, very great patience, and especially in these generations, which spread throughout the world, and intervened with the souls of Israel, and brought from outside all the garbage and dirt, and in our many iniquities children are trapped in their evil and bitter fortress, thorn, loathing, polluting, Adultery and drugs, and parents must give their lives for the education of their children, to educate them to follow the path of Torah and reverence as we received from our forefathers and forefathers from generation to generation. But in order to educate children in the ways of Torah, a lot of patience is needed, because there is nothing else that requires patience like the matter of Enoch, and it is forbidden to push the hour, and to pressure the children who are forced to walk in this way or in such a manner, the fruitlessness of the perfection of Chanoch is in the ways of pleasantness and love and correct explanation. And the barren – with great patience, to instill in them a simple faith in Him who will be blessed, and to fulfill the commandments by accepting innocence and utter raids, and to despise and despise them the ways of the Gentiles and the nations of the world.And for all of them – many prayers and requests are needed, that the father and mother pour out their souls before Him will be blessed every day, that their children be careful in honoring the Torah and the commandments, and honoring them The Holy One, blessed be He, and to do His will will be truly blessed. And then, if the parents pray every day to G-d for the success of their children, and also try very hard to behave with their children with great patience not to pressure them, and not to overburden them, but with proper explanation and to put an end to the despicable ways of the Gentiles and their protective desires, then Dika will succeed in educating healthy children, from whom His glory will emerge and grow and will be blessed in the world. It is futile to have children in this world, in order to transmit to them the holy faith that we received from generation to generation from our forefathers to Moses at Mount Sinai. And in this they raise such amusements to Him who will be blessed, who have never seen such amusements, and especially in this generation, when the world is so dark, and the Arabs are very spread with their evil and bitter opinions, and everything becomes lawless, merciful to the shadow, and speaks against the Holy One, blessed be He, with great boldness and insolence, and if now in this generation they give their lives for the education of the children, and educate According to the Torah and reverence for sanctity and purity, it is very important for him to be blessed; For after all the difficult and bitter trials that the souls of Israel are going through, and yet one does not look at the gentiles and the nations of the world and the multitude who intervened among the souls of Israel, and educate them in the way of Torah and reverence, this is the barrenness of amusement in him will be blessed.But you must know that the foundation of the education of children is dika by the validity of patience, that many of them must suffer, because the children are through them Rebel against all that is said to them, and therefore parents must be wise and not pay attention to this rebellion, but continue with great patience and pleasantly instill in them a simple faith in Him who will be blessed, and always speak only from the Holy One, blessed be He, and from the virtue of His commandments, and tell them stories of the righteous from great sages, by this you will succeed in educating honest generations. Dear ones, know that a great responsibility rests on you, since G-d has privileged you to marry and bear sons, you should know that the futile purpose of giving birth to sons and daughters was to instill in them a simple faith in Him who will be blessed, and that they will continue the golden chain of all the souls of Israel. The biggest thing, because their way of annoying the parents is great, and they try to check and see their weak point, and as soon as they see that they have succeeded and succeeded, then they get on their nerves, and the parents usually suffer a great deal of suffering, both from livelihood and from family problems, and each with his own suffering, well when children get on their nerves, then the parents’ patience wears off and they start beating them, and the children Even more wild and extremely rebellious. So with beatings and shouts and outbursts, they do nothing, but annoy them more. Therefore, you should know that a divine mission has been given to you, since G-d has given you a gift – children, you must instill in them a simple faith in Him who will be blessed. But on this one has to be very patient; For faith and patience go in excitement and depend on each other, for the true believer who believes that there is nothing without him will be blessed at all, and everything to every goddess is complete, and a great thing and a small thing is not done by itself, he suffers by this all that he goes through, because he knows that everything from him will be blessed. And if it is said about every single detail of life, all the more so without any value at all that it is said about the education of the children, to educate them in the ways of Torah and mitzvot, in the way of pure and clear faith in Him will be blessed. And if you establish these words, then you will succeed in educating them, educating them according to the ways of the Torah and the commandments and the meritorious faith, and you will gain from them a great deal of satisfaction in Dakadsha, and when they grow up they will be proud of their Judaism, and will not be ashamed of any creature in the world, they will go with their faith in Him who will be blessed proudly before all the nations and nations of the world, and will reveal and publish the truth of His reality. myself, with strong confidence; Because when children are educated properly, patiently, and lower themselves to the level of their intellect, and speak to them in their language and according to their examination, and explain to them the way of Torah and reverence, then we will expand their minds and warmth, and instill in them self-confidence, and come out of themselves, and grow and develop in the best possible way, and the parents gain a lot of satisfaction from them; Blessed is he who educates his sons and daughters according to the ways of the Torah and the commandments, and according to the pure way of faith that we received from our forefathers and forefathers from generation to generation, until Moses received the Torah at Mount Sinai, and then amusement will be brought up in all the worlds, and amusement down to all the souls of Israel; Blessed be Him in this, and blessed be Him in the Come!